I recently saw a trailer for a new movie coming out this Friday. The movie is called Sex Tape and well with a name like that it caught my attention right away. The cast has one of my favorite actors in it, Jason Segel from How I Meet A Your Mother. The basic concept of the movie is that to “spice up” their sex life they have decided to make a tape of them having sex for their own personal viewing. It was a great idea until… Well I’m not here to tell you about the movie. Go out and watch it I know I will be this weekend.
When I saw the trailer it made me giggle. My fiance and I have not done a video but we have taken photos for each other before when he used to work crazy long hours and we hardly ever saw each other. It was something we did to stay connected and keep that fire in our relationship going. In the movie this is the reason they did the tape as well. It got me to thinking. What else do we do as a couple to keep that "fire" going....
First off it always has to be about the small things. Yes the big grand gestures are nice but if you depend on them. It will be harder and harder to keep them up and the fire is sure to die out quickly.
Second you have to do things not because you like it all the time but because your partner does. I am all about the sappy movies which can lead to some hanky panky afterwards but that is not something that my fiance enjoys. So in turn I find something he likes to even the playing field and keep everyone happy. We do both.
Third you must feel sexy with your own body and happy with yourself before you can even try to have any desire for someone else. Take time each week to pamper yourself and feel sexy so that you can be sexy with your partner.
So with all that said and done what do we do...
1) We text each other throughout the day with cute messages saying "I love you" or "I'm horny" This is not a daily thing or it would become routine and lose it's desired effect. When your at work and stressed, you get a little message like that randomly. It puts a smile on your face and I don't know about you but it is hard to be horny when your not happy. lol
2) We make sure to have even a few minutes of alone time each day. Sometimes we can only manage a few minutes and others we can get a whole day. Make the most of this time and don't waste it on "the gas bill is high this month honey." Make those minutes count and show your partner how you feel. Even if it a hidden hug when no one is looking.
3) We still date each other. Have a planned date night when ever you get the chance. This might be once a week or every six months. But stick to it and set a date at the end of each date night so you have something to look forward to even if it is a long way away. It will make you feel like your still in a new relationship and gives you time alone together too.
4) We don't fill every moment with conversation. Have time where you just hold each other and if you can.... be naked ;) This does not need to lead to anything, but might. Feeling each others heated bodies can be almost animalistic.
5) We support each other. Having someone to lean on each night and listen to your stresses or joys from the day can be almost therapeutic.
This is just a small list of the many things we do for and with each other to keep our relationship healthy and our fire still alive.
When all else fails.... Make out. We seem to lose the fun as adult in just a full long make out session. I say bring that back just kiss till your mouths hurt. #BedroomSpice
“Disclosure: I am part of the Sony Pictures – Sex Tape Movie program with Mom Central Canada and I receive special perks as part of my affiliation with this group. The opinions on this blog are my own.”
When I saw the trailer it made me giggle. My fiance and I have not done a video but we have taken photos for each other before when he used to work crazy long hours and we hardly ever saw each other. It was something we did to stay connected and keep that fire in our relationship going. In the movie this is the reason they did the tape as well. It got me to thinking. What else do we do as a couple to keep that "fire" going....
First off it always has to be about the small things. Yes the big grand gestures are nice but if you depend on them. It will be harder and harder to keep them up and the fire is sure to die out quickly.
Second you have to do things not because you like it all the time but because your partner does. I am all about the sappy movies which can lead to some hanky panky afterwards but that is not something that my fiance enjoys. So in turn I find something he likes to even the playing field and keep everyone happy. We do both.
Third you must feel sexy with your own body and happy with yourself before you can even try to have any desire for someone else. Take time each week to pamper yourself and feel sexy so that you can be sexy with your partner.
So with all that said and done what do we do...
1) We text each other throughout the day with cute messages saying "I love you" or "I'm horny" This is not a daily thing or it would become routine and lose it's desired effect. When your at work and stressed, you get a little message like that randomly. It puts a smile on your face and I don't know about you but it is hard to be horny when your not happy. lol
2) We make sure to have even a few minutes of alone time each day. Sometimes we can only manage a few minutes and others we can get a whole day. Make the most of this time and don't waste it on "the gas bill is high this month honey." Make those minutes count and show your partner how you feel. Even if it a hidden hug when no one is looking.
3) We still date each other. Have a planned date night when ever you get the chance. This might be once a week or every six months. But stick to it and set a date at the end of each date night so you have something to look forward to even if it is a long way away. It will make you feel like your still in a new relationship and gives you time alone together too.
4) We don't fill every moment with conversation. Have time where you just hold each other and if you can.... be naked ;) This does not need to lead to anything, but might. Feeling each others heated bodies can be almost animalistic.
5) We support each other. Having someone to lean on each night and listen to your stresses or joys from the day can be almost therapeutic.
This is just a small list of the many things we do for and with each other to keep our relationship healthy and our fire still alive.
When all else fails.... Make out. We seem to lose the fun as adult in just a full long make out session. I say bring that back just kiss till your mouths hurt. #BedroomSpice
“Disclosure: I am part of the Sony Pictures – Sex Tape Movie program with Mom Central Canada and I receive special perks as part of my affiliation with this group. The opinions on this blog are my own.”